Ever been abused or getting abused?

by **pleasurenpain** » Sun Oct 04, 2009 9:51 pm

I feel very sorry for you. I hope everything is gon' work our in the future. Maybe you just talk to her for a while?

by **sambo9** » Sun Oct 04, 2009 9:52 pm

You definitely need to talk about this with someone you trust. The level of abuse that you're getting is beyond unacceptable.

by **Thriller** » Sun Oct 04, 2009 9:53 pm

Sounds more like something you should be telling the police rather than us!

by **Tom92** » Sun Oct 04, 2009 10:00 pm

Maybe you should try talking to her about it first, but if thats out of the question, i'd say tell some of your close friends who know you on a personal level, and get their opinions on it and what you should do.

Hope it all gets better for you soon. And with handling things the right way with the right people, things CAN get better

by **Star** » Sun Oct 04, 2009 10:07 pm

Get a stick and whoop her freakin' ass!

And/or call the police!

by **AyuM** » Sun Oct 04, 2009 11:40 pm

Call the fuc*n police!

by **Marius** » Sun Oct 04, 2009 11:59 pm

ejayfierce, how old and in what country are you?

by **ejayfierce** » Mon Oct 05, 2009 12:12 am

internet helps me escape from my real life....i might seem all crazy and wild on internet..but in real life im miserable...and i dont know anybody that i can trust to stay with if i run away!....my big brother is in the army. MY MOTHER JUST LEFT THE HOUSE..AND RIGHT AFTER SHE LEFT MY BROTHER CALLED...HE GAVE ME HIS CREDIT CARD NUMBER..and said get how much money i want off of it..MY BIG BROTHER WENT THROUGH THE SAME THING I DID...my little brother is next after m..its like a cycle...now dont get me wrong we have some good times...then there are times when it is hell! she has me clean up the whole house wakes me up at 7 in the morning...scrubbing walls!! slaving for her...and i got to school..like nothing happened..whenever i get payed (every friday)..i go pick up my check in the morning instead of going to school..and she takes all my money and smacks me if i try to hold on to it..when i was little she busted my head with a plate..i have the scars to prove it.....ONE OF MY DREAMS IS TO WRITE A BOOK ABOUT MY WHOLE LIFE....youll never know what a person is going through by looking at them...i got to school like a normal kid..smiling like nothing happened..i hate my life..

by **ejayfierce** » Mon Oct 05, 2009 12:13 am

potojr wrote:ejayfierce, how old and in what country are you?

im 16 and i live in Chicago Illinois

by **Star** » Mon Oct 05, 2009 12:20 am

I think you should definitely tell a teacher at school who you trust.

Not a good idea just to run away. You don't want to end up homeless and in trouble.

Talk to someone. They might give you options which you never knew existed.

by **ejayfierce** » Mon Oct 05, 2009 12:38 am

Star wrote:I think you should definitely tell a teacher at school who you trust.

Not a good idea just to run away. You don't want to end up homeless and in trouble.

Talk to someone. They might give you options which you never knew existed.

i got 2 yeARS LEFT until i graduate..once i graduate i will be free from her! me and my big brother is working up a plan..my bro will be finally done with army and will be going to colledge..and he will get a apartment..and ill run away and live with him... safe from her!! my story is kind of the like book **A CHILD CALLED IT**

by **JimJim** » Mon Oct 05, 2009 4:22 am

This sounds quite serious, I'm all for the teacher idea, I think they are legally obligated to help you in this instance. Don't wait two years, there is always help available if you seek it.

by **SholasBoy** » Mon Oct 05, 2009 10:23 am

AyuM wrote:Call the fuc*n police!

Can you watch your language please.

by **Plym** » Mon Oct 05, 2009 4:25 pm

ejayfierce, it broke my heart to read your posts!!

Please tell someone at your school... A teacher you might like. They may be able to get help for your mom as well as you.

by **nekoo3372** » Mon Oct 05, 2009 5:06 pm

I came here when the first post was already deleted, but from the comments I am little scared ...

I have just one thing to say ...

Don´t let anybody hurt you or do whatever wrong to you ... NEVER !
Just look around you, look for someone to help you ... when someone evil tells you that you are bad doesn´t meen that you are ...

And as the other guys, I have to agree ... tell that to the teacher ...

by **JoshuaBuzz** » Mon Oct 05, 2009 8:11 pm

Ejay...

I think obviously the abuse goes beyond the physical, it is also the emotional and psychological. I can only imagine how tough it must be but I would encourage you to start placing certain limits and boundaries with your mother. Limits and boundaries she should know by instinct but for whatever reason doesn't, or choses to ignore. Put a limit on how much house work you do, and at what times you are able to do so. Refuse to hand over to her all of your salary and if necessary, talk to your boss and figure out different way for him to pay you - ie, maybe open your own bank account and have him deposit it directly, something like that. That way YOU control how much you contribute to the household expenses and how much you use for your own personal stuff.

I would also really encourage you to seek a teacher you trust, or even better, go directly to a Head of Year or Principal. People in higher up positions will usually have alot more experience with this kind of situation, so they will know how to help you best, plus they will likely be able to put you in contact with a social worker or psychologist or whatever, depending on your needs. I remember once I was going through some stuff, I spoke to a Head of Year, she had this woman come in especially just to have a private chat to me, she brought all sorts of information and stuff to help me decide what was best course of action for me, what I wanted to do, made me some questions to help me decide, etc. If you go to a bog-standard teacher they will probably take it to someone higher up than them anyways, so it might just be simpler to cut out the middleman so to speak.

Lastly, I would really advise you to seek out a church near you. Churches are also used to dealing with these kind of situations and there is nearly always someone, either a pastor or someone else, with councilling experience who will be able to sit down with you, listen, counsel you, and pray with you. Plus, most churches have several doctors, social workers, psychologists, etc, and even if they don't the pastors will usually have contact with a good one and be able to hook you up, maybe even for free, with whatever kind of help it is you, your mother and family need.

God bless!

by **Blackberry** » Tue Oct 06, 2009 10:21 am

Ejay, you have to tell someone, because God forbid that something more serious occurs from the violence you are suffering. You also have to do this for your little brother.

by **pleasurenpain** » Tue Oct 06, 2009 10:49 am

Please make sure if your mother really does love you and if it is not possible to talk to her first. Because I don't find the teacher-idea very good... They are gonna jugde on your family without knowing them exactly. And you'll have abad reputation; also your mom might become even more angry. Just be strong and confident and check out the situation. And if you really feel there is no way that your mom is changing after a conversation with you, then maybe it is really the best to call the local Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service.

Be strong and besta luck

by **Blackberry** » Tue Oct 06, 2009 11:16 am

pleasurenpain wrote:Please make sure if your mother really does love you and if it is not possible to talk to her first. Because I don't find the teacher-idea very good... They are gonna jugde on your family without knowing them exactly. And you'll have abad reputation; also your mom might become even more angry. Just be strong and confident and check out the situation. And if you really feel there is no way that your mom is changing after a conversation with you, then maybe it is really the best to call the local Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service.

Be strong and besta luck

I'm sorry but this post is a load of crap, teachers are there to help you and I think they would rather you tell them than be abused. Also, a teacher is trained to deal with issues such as this.

by **pleasurenpain** » Tue Oct 06, 2009 11:20 am

Blackberry wrote:
pleasurenpain wrote:Please make sure if your mother really does love you and if it is not possible to talk to her first. Because I don't find the teacher-idea very good... They are gonna jugde on your family without knowing them exactly. And you'll have abad reputation; also your mom might become even more angry. Just be strong and confident and check out the situation. And if you really feel there is no way that your mom is changing after a conversation with you, then maybe it is really the best to call the local Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service.

Be strong and besta luck
I'm sorry but this post is a load of crap, teachers are there to help you and I think they would rather you tell them than be abused. Also, a teacher is trained to deal with issues such as this.

Hell no my post ain't crap... Teachers mind their own business. Teachers are trained in their subjects but they are no the best pedagogics ands psychologists. Sometimes parents are just stressed for a time. Who knowa Ejay maybe you are just angry and overreacting. You have to make sure if you deep down love each other and if it is that serious. It is very normal in many many cultures for parents to beat their children. That doesn't mean they don't love and care for their kids

by **irishguy28** » Tue Oct 06, 2009 11:48 am

Indeed, pleasurenpain, you said "Who knows"?

None of us can, because all we have to go on is what was written in here. But if someone is appealing for help (which is what the OP appears to be doing) then who are you to recommend not seeking that help from someone there on the ground to whom the OP has access and who is far better placed to assess the situation?

The teacher would at least know the student and be more quickly able to come to a correct assessment of the situation. The teacher has the professional back up and infrastructure available to handle this sort of situation in the best way possible.

So by all means - tell a teacher, your school counsellor, or your school nurse. Or a priest/minister/rabbi/imam. Or your doctor. They will respect your privacy and confidentiality, in so far as it is appropriate in dealing with the actual situation you find yourself in. They will know what to do and will be able to help.

by **Blackberry** » Tue Oct 06, 2009 6:55 pm

pleasurenpain wrote:
Blackberry wrote:
pleasurenpain wrote:Please make sure if your mother really does love you and if it is not possible to talk to her first. Because I don't find the teacher-idea very good... They are gonna jugde on your family without knowing them exactly. And you'll have abad reputation; also your mom might become even more angry. Just be strong and confident and check out the situation. And if you really feel there is no way that your mom is changing after a conversation with you, then maybe it is really the best to call the local Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service.

Be strong and besta luck
I'm sorry but this post is a load of crap, teachers are there to help you and I think they would rather you tell them than be abused. Also, a teacher is trained to deal with issues such as this.
Hell no my post ain't crap... Teachers mind their own business. Teachers are trained in their subjects but they are no the best pedagogics ands psychologists. Sometimes parents are just stressed for a time. Who knowa Ejay maybe you are just angry and overreacting. You have to make sure if you deep down love each other and if it is that serious. It is very normal in many many cultures for parents to beat their children. That doesn't mean they don't love and care for their kids

Yes they are, Teachers go one training days for this sort of thing, my Mum is a teacher and she goes on many. They learn how to deal with issues like this correctly.

Ejay, I will pray for you, you're little brother and your Mother. I hope everything gets sorted out and I hope that this will make your family stronger and bring you all closer.

by **Star** » Tue Oct 06, 2009 8:06 pm

irishguy28 wrote:Indeed, pleasurenpain, you said "Who knows"?

None of us can, because all we have to go on is what was written in here. But if someone is appealing for help (which is what the OP appears to be doing) then who are you to recommend not seeking that help from someone there on the ground to whom the OP has access and who is far better placed to assess the situation?

The teacher would at least know the student and be more quickly able to come to a correct assessment of the situation. The teacher has the professional back up and infrastructure available to handle this sort of situation in the best way possible.

So by all means - tell a teacher, your school counsellor, or your school nurse. Or a priest/minister/rabbi/imam. Or your doctor. They will respect your privacy and confidentiality, in so far as it is appropriate in dealing with the actual situation you find yourself in. They will know what to do and will be able to help.

Wise words. As always. :wink:

by **ejayfierce** » Fri Oct 23, 2009 2:03 am

abused documents

- got smacked in the face and hit with metal spoon in head..for bringing a small pie for myself. and not bringing her one. she said *if u can bring something for urself u can bring something for family u selffish pig, if u cant do that then dont bring nothing at all** (i havnt ate nothing all day) she gave the pie to my little bro..

PS (starting today on the blog ima start documenting my abuse each day)