dI can't believe i'm posting this here but here I go, so I met this guy at my job and we started dating (I even posted about it in the relationship advice thread
) everything was going fine then his dad kicked him out so I couldn't just let him live on the streets so I secretly (I live with my parents and i'm 17 btw) let him live with me, the first few days were great, I got to see him everyday, I went to sleep in his arms, etc... but then he started getting depressed because he didn't have a job or a place of his own, and this is where the abuse starts after a few weeks of depression and telling me he wanted to kill himself he began to take his anger/frustrations out on me, everyday he would find a way to insult me or make me feel small, then I helped him get a job where I work at so that he could save up and get his own place, he finally got his own place and wants me to move in (I haven't decided yet), I figured things would get back the way they used to be but I was wrong, still the same insults and now its beginning to get physical, a few days ago because I wouldn't let him use my cellphone (because I was upset after previously being called a "disgusting ugly b***) he kicked me in the side while I was on the bed. So I pushed him against the wall and he tackled me on the bed and started choking me. I want to leave him but I simply can't he lives down the road from me, we work at the same place, etc... I just feel trapped.
Well...the first things first, thanks for sharing this with us.
The first thing that you need to do is tell your parents. Immediately.
Not just them though. Tell your boss, one or two more responsible adults that you can trust, and your closest friends. I know it sounds beyond absurd but there's strength in numbers.
The big problem that victms of relationship violence find themselves in is that they have nowhere to run to because they have been cut off from their family and friends for so long.
But you're one of the lucky ones. So you need to do the opposite and surround yourself with your family and friends.
The second thing you need to do is stop entertaining him so much. That means stop sleeping with him and that means
And I'm guessing you have tried talking to him?
Regardless of what the answer is, try talking to him again but this time have one or two people in the room with you two just in case something bad happens.
I apologize if I'm coming off as rude or whatever but you need to jump to it before things get worse.
And trust me. They will
Do you live in America? Or are you in Europe or Asia?