Is smacking children acceptable?

by **johnnyboy** » Fri Mar 23, 2012 9:16 am

Raise them well, and you won't need to slap them up.

^ Exactly!

by **Jesper** » Fri Mar 23, 2012 9:41 am

Star wrote:I can't at all these child beaters.

Raise them well, and you won't need to slap them up.

Every child is different, raising him/her well, doesn't always help

by **pollei** » Fri Mar 23, 2012 12:47 pm

Smacking children is definitely acceptable, as long as it is only used when really needed. The right of a parent/guardian should not be abused as it might lead to a more negative effect to the child.

by **danbarj** » Fri Mar 23, 2012 1:10 pm

Smacking is a apart of my son being raised well. Critical age of 2. This is the age where he learns structure or doesn't. I hate smacking him, but refuse to speak over and over. He will not talk back, grunt or throw tantrums.

Yeah, it gets the job done. It is 1 thing to be a child, as we all have been. It's another thing to be a parent and get some experience. There's also a difference b/t smacking and abuse!

Thank God the US hasnt been stupid enough to try to outlaw it.

by **neoepzilon** » Fri Mar 23, 2012 1:24 pm

^^ Yes Danbarj. *insert bowing smiley here*

I don't necessarily condone the military ass woopins that I used to get as a child. You know, getting hit with pots and pans, head banged into the wall, stoned...

But hey, I learned my lesson.

My youngest brother, never got beatings as a child. Now he has three charges, a criminal record, and is a drug addict. Fabulous.

by **Wayne** » Fri Mar 23, 2012 1:44 pm

johnnyboy wrote:Raise them well, and you won't need to slap them up.

^ Exactly!

I completely agree with this.

by **danbarj** » Fri Mar 23, 2012 3:21 pm

Discipline is apart if "raising your child well." And what works for one child may not work for the next. Do what is necessary without abusw or excessive force. The result (obedience and respect) is the common denominator.

Everyone requoting "raise them well" hasnt stated what you should do when a child is stubborn and does not respond to talking. I ask you to do so. Please dont say "time outs" and "no candy."

by **Star** » Fri Mar 23, 2012 3:52 pm

Children can be stubborn, even more so than adults. My sister's kids are little rascals. They do things that can endanger their lives at times, like trying to unfasten their seatbelts or putting dangerous objects into their mouth. And it is hard to strike a balance of being a good parent/carer but being firm at the same time.

But smacking them is not the answer. Simply explain to them, with love, the consequences of what they're doing. Love is the answer. Lots of love. I've seen it for myself.

I will never accept smacking children.

If smacking worked, then it would only need to be done once. Clearly that isn't the case, as kids will be kids. So... next time you have to smack them harder. And harder. And before you know it... you will be beating your self up for having thrown "pots and pans" and shoes and phones at them.

8-)

by **danbarj** » Fri Mar 23, 2012 4:39 pm

@star going by that theory, if talking worked it would only need to be done one time. Bottom line, it works for some and not for all. I think our cultures play a big role too.

I mmake sure to speak with my son, but he knows what a raised hand means. And he is sure I love him!

by **Valentino** » Fri Mar 23, 2012 4:43 pm

NO stupid people smack children

you can clap their asses but not really whooping

by **danbarj** » Fri Mar 23, 2012 4:55 pm

I smack legs and ass, tis all! Speaking only will be left to those with whom it works.

The rod of correction will drive foolishness from the heart of a child. Spare the rod, spoil the child!

by **Star** » Fri Mar 23, 2012 5:01 pm

But you're better off talking over and over again than beating a 3 year old's ass over and over again.

#Love

And the talking approach works better because as they grow up they understand what they're doing is wrong. The violent approach has many negative consequences.

by **danbarj** » Fri Mar 23, 2012 5:10 pm

Star wrote:But you're better off talking over and over again than beating a 3 year old's ass over and over again.

#Love

And the talking approach works better because as they grow up they understand what they're doing is wrong. The violent approach has many negative consequences.

It is crazy for a child to think the cons of disobeying my talking is more talking. Definition of insanity. I talk AND I smack. He understands what is unacceptable and knows the consequence.

As for negative cons, there's no 100% proof plan for anything, be it talking or smacking. Imo, i've seen more negative from not smacking. Those kids have grown to become unruly and think life has no cons. Well, not my child.

And whatever we do verbally or physically should be without abuse. Abuse is absolutely negative.

In closing - I personally decree to myself that I will never be the parent of the unruly child that throws tantrums. My child will know respect and not after 100 convos.

by **Serby** » Fri Mar 23, 2012 11:56 pm

04wayne wrote:
johnnyboy wrote:Raise them well, and you won't need to slap them up.

^ Exactly!
I completely agree with this.

Oh you would be surprised how some kids can be awful...it's in their genes! :lol:

by **danbarj** » Sat Mar 24, 2012 12:06 am

serbia95riri wrote:
04wayne wrote:
johnnyboy wrote:Raise them well, and you won't need to slap them up.

^ Exactly!
I completely agree with this.
Oh you would be in denial of how some kids can be awful...it's in their genes!

FIXED!

by **Wayne** » Sat Mar 24, 2012 12:20 am

No, not in denial - I just think that repeated slaps/claps or whatever you call them is almost exclusively never needed. In any situation.

Any parent worth their salt shouldn't need to slap their children, that's my opinion.

by **danbarj** » Sat Mar 24, 2012 12:39 am

Sure, cause you said so! Any parent worth their salt and interested in their kids future will discipline them as necessary. Psychologists and ukmix cant determine the order of each household just as they dont know the parenting successes of each parent, regardless of tactic.

To each his own.

by **Wayne** » Sat Mar 24, 2012 12:42 am

My opinion still stands - you shouldn't need to slap your children. 8-)

by **danbarj** » Sat Mar 24, 2012 1:10 am

Wayne it certainly does and should. So does mine! It will now and forever!

That's why we should table it cause it will not change anything.

by **Wayne** » Sat Mar 24, 2012 1:11 am

danbarj wrote:Wayne it certainly does and should. So does mine! It will now and forever!

That's why we should table it cause it will not change anything.

Shall we depart, by slapping each other? 8-)

by **Star** » Sat Mar 24, 2012 1:13 am

You've woken the inner Ivana

by **danbarj** » Sat Mar 24, 2012 1:15 am

04wayne wrote:
danbarj wrote:Wayne it certainly does and should. So does mine! It will now and forever!

That's why we should table it cause it will not change anything.
Shall we depart, by slapping each other?

*proceeds to slapping*

by **sambo9** » Sat Mar 24, 2012 6:49 am

I wasn't raised by being repeatedly smacked every time I did something wrong and I wouldn't really say that I turned out to be unruly or out of control. :lol:

You can be sufficiently strict without resorting to violence in my opinion.

by **danbarj** » Sat Mar 24, 2012 12:16 pm

Again, to each his own.

Misperception - who saya smack the kid all the time? "When necessary... When talking is not enough"

by **danbarj** » Sat Mar 24, 2012 12:19 pm

sambo9 wrote:I wasn't raised by being repeatedly smacked every time I did something wrong and I wouldn't really say that I turned out to be unruly or out of control. You can be sufficiently strict without resorting to violence in my opinion.

So, you are every child? And what works with you will certainly work with every kid just as all teaching techniques help every child the same? All rehab techniques help all addicts the same? All prisoners come out reformed?

Gotcha!