Yesterday I received my inheritance money from my parents and I feel like my partner is trying to use me as a "sugar daddy" or something because he spends his entire paycheck as soon as he gets it. This is MY money (he always told me in the past that his money was his and not mine), the money my parents worked hard for and saved for many decades and I'm not going to waste it supporting his hobbies when I'd rather treat myself (I plan to get lasik surgery on my eyes, maybe get a new car, do some upgrades to the house) as well as save the majority of it and live the way I lived before I stumbled into a lot of extra money. I don't feel bad about buying dinner more often now but he was guilt-tripping me into buying him stuff yesterday when shopping but I was firm in saying no, because I really don't want to come back in December and see I only have $300 left because I blew money on his shit. He's the one who doesn't know how to save money and I will be goddamned to make the same mistakes, I know had this happened when I was 28 instead of 38, I would blow through all this money in a few months trying to live well outside of my accustomed lifestyle and means, but I intend on making this money last for quite a few years, and part of doing so is not just suckering up to every "ooh I want this but only have $40 on the bank, can you get this for me John?" and him trying to get me to spend $100 on some WWE tickets I have no interest in going to that he had no interest in going to until I came into the money yesterday.