NothingFails wrote:do you want to have the same dinner every night? Sure you have your favorite meal but variety is the spice of life. Do you listen to one and only one artist? Sure you have your fave but there's others who are good too (well some stans might not fathom this lol). I feel the same way with an open relationship. We have a 26 year old chaser who plays with us time to time (twice in the past three weeks) and I absolutely love the sensation being with him brings me... do I want to leave my partner for him or does my partner want to leave me for him? No.... but it actually feels good and being with someone else actually brings out better pointers for my own performance and vice versa.
When sex is the most important thing for the both of you, or at least, to one of you, then yes, I understand.
But to have found my partner in life, it's the best thing that ever happened to me and although I love sex, it's not the most important thing in our relationship, so we can go without having sex with random strangers.
Comparing a life time partnership, to listen to music or eating is very "reductive"