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Postby WeakHeart » Tue Mar 13, 2018 3:08 pm

aRat wrote:
WeakHeart wrote:
cheapthrills wrote:
WeakHeart wrote:Im about to experience 'Call me by your name' in real life :lol:
He seems interested
But he's married, should I go for it?
Goodness, how brave of you to jump into RT with this as your first post. 8-)

Welcome! :D
Thanks :D
I've been reading ukmix for a long time but didn't really have anything to contribute
plus I can't talk to anyone about it, The married guy part
So this place felt safe :D
If he is anywhere near as hot as daddy Armie then yes definitely.

Get that forbidden fruit.
He certainly is
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Postby WeakHeart » Tue Mar 13, 2018 3:11 pm

LongingHeart wrote:Years ago I probably would have hooked up with a married guy - now definitely not! :-?
I've had one night stands before married/unmarried both
But he's my neighbour that's what bothering me the most
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Postby LongingHeart » Tue Mar 13, 2018 3:30 pm

So he‘s got a family at home and what bothers you the most is that he‘s your neighbour?

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Postby BodyShop » Tue Mar 13, 2018 3:55 pm

I have a prob with married guys too.
I always think "what if i was in the position of the partner?".
I don't judge cause ti each their own but i don't like the idea of being with someone that is in a relationship let alone being married.
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Postby NothingFails » Tue Mar 13, 2018 4:01 pm

I could only fool with a bisexual married guy if he has the balls to be open to his wife. The ones who liars and keep liking dick a dirty little secret can go to hell. They're so worried their wives will reject them and not understand if they find out the truth, but the reality is she WILL reject his ass when she finds out he's been taking a cock for ten years behind her back. Surely straight couples are as open to the idea of being open as gay couples are? Most of my partnered/married gay friends are in open relationships.
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Postby BodyShop » Tue Mar 13, 2018 4:06 pm

I could never be part of an open relationship. I would much rather be single and whore myself around every night with a different guy.
I don't even get the point of it ,tbh lol.
I mean :"ok,you're my partner but I'm gonna f**k whoever I want to "
What for ????
Maybe I'm too closed minded but I tried hard to understand it but it simply doesn't make any sense to me.
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Postby NothingFails » Tue Mar 13, 2018 4:14 pm

do you want to have the same dinner every night? Sure you have your favorite meal but variety is the spice of life. Do you listen to one and only one artist? Sure you have your fave but there's others who are good too (well some stans might not fathom this lol). I feel the same way with an open relationship. We have a 26 year old chaser who plays with us time to time (twice in the past three weeks) and I absolutely love the sensation being with him brings me... do I want to leave my partner for him or does my partner want to leave me for him? No.... but it actually feels good and being with someone else actually brings out better pointers for my own performance and vice versa.
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Postby spiritboy » Tue Mar 13, 2018 4:28 pm

I love being with a married man and the secrecy surrounding the affair.
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Postby WeakHeart » Tue Mar 13, 2018 5:06 pm

LongingHeart wrote:So he‘s got a family at home and what bothers you the most is that he‘s your neighbour?
Yes
I've slept with married guys before,
I'm 19 i get drunk. i mess around with strangers no big deal
Im not gonna date him because i know he doesn't have the balls to admit it.
I've been avoiding him for the past 2 weeks
Things gonna get awkward even if i don't sleep with him
Im screwed :lol:
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Postby WeakHeart » Tue Mar 13, 2018 5:07 pm

spiritboy wrote:I love being with a married man and the secrecy surrounding the affair.
You're a devil :lol: :lol:
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Postby BodyShop » Tue Mar 13, 2018 5:22 pm

NothingFails wrote:do you want to have the same dinner every night? Sure you have your favorite meal but variety is the spice of life. Do you listen to one and only one artist? Sure you have your fave but there's others who are good too (well some stans might not fathom this lol). I feel the same way with an open relationship. We have a 26 year old chaser who plays with us time to time (twice in the past three weeks) and I absolutely love the sensation being with him brings me... do I want to leave my partner for him or does my partner want to leave me for him? No.... but it actually feels good and being with someone else actually brings out better pointers for my own performance and vice versa.
I respect that but can't relate at all as I would never admit sharing my partner with anyone else.
Your post pretty much sums up why I think monogamy is something that doesn't work and also why I came to the conclusion serious relationships suck as if you insist on having one you're gonna be cheated sooner than later.
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Postby spiritboy » Tue Mar 13, 2018 5:25 pm

WeakHeart wrote:
spiritboy wrote:I love being with a married man and the secrecy surrounding the affair.
You're a devil :lol: :lol:
Even the devil wouldn't recognize me :lol: :lol: :lol:
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Postby NothingFails » Tue Mar 13, 2018 5:30 pm

To be fair... we didn't decide to go open until five years in (we're at eight now). I don't want to marry any other guy, I don't want to grow old with them, etc... but messing around with someone who isn't living with you and hasn't been committed with you for close to a decade actually does have its perks. I actually don't mess around nearly as much as it sounds, I've been with four guys who aren't my partner since 2015, three of them were the three of us together.

My prob is that I'm more the clingy guy who only wants to do something if it's a guy I *really* like and not just some anonymous stranger. I have a few potentials I talk to but they all live so far away the chances of anything happening are very slim, though one of them does come to my city on the weekends occasionally :lol:
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Postby ArmyOfMe » Tue Mar 13, 2018 6:34 pm

I have been together for a while with my bf (one year and a half, that's my longest relationship) and we haven't been with other guys in the meantime. However, monogamy is something we have discussed, and both of us would theoretically be open to new experiences, most probably threesomes.
AsI far as I'm concerned, the equation that a relationship or marriage have to be about having exclusive control of another person's genitals is influenced by a heteronormative vision of society that's been passed to us by previous generations. However, that doesn't necessarily reflect everyone's nature and how everyone has to deal with relationships in the 21st century.
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Postby RayRay » Tue Mar 13, 2018 9:00 pm

I guess I'm old fashioned. My husband was my first boyfriend. We've been together for almost 22 years now. And I've never been with anyone else and I don't want to. I love the security of it just being the two of us.

I understand this is not for everyone. Gay, straight or bi.
It's also understandable that women don't want to leave their men, when they are secretly gay/bi.
But I'm somebody that don't want to share.
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Postby Hugo » Tue Mar 13, 2018 9:12 pm

ArmyOfMe wrote:I have been together for a while with my bf (one year and a half, that's my longest relationship) and we haven't been with other guys in the meantime. However, monogamy is something we have discussed, and both of us would theoretically be open to new experiences, most probably threesomes.
AsI far as I'm concerned, the equation that a relationship or marriage have to be about having exclusive control of another person's genitals is influenced by a heteronormative vision of society that's been passed to us by previous generations. However, that doesn't necessarily reflect everyone's nature and how everyone has to deal with relationships in the 21st century.
If everyone is fine with it... awesome. But if one has to hide it, something isn't right.
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Postby SummerPeur » Tue Mar 13, 2018 9:42 pm

spiritboy wrote:I love being with a married man and the secrecy surrounding the affair.
Sis pls.... :lol: :lol:
How about you Get the F*** Out.
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Postby Erotica » Tue Mar 13, 2018 9:44 pm

I could never do something with a married person
I am not trying to seduce you... Would you like me to seduce you? Is that what you're trying to tell me?
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Postby MrDiva » Tue Mar 13, 2018 10:02 pm

NothingFails wrote:do you want to have the same dinner every night? Sure you have your favorite meal but variety is the spice of life. Do you listen to one and only one artist? Sure you have your fave but there's others who are good too (well some stans might not fathom this lol). I feel the same way with an open relationship. We have a 26 year old chaser who plays with us time to time (twice in the past three weeks) and I absolutely love the sensation being with him brings me... do I want to leave my partner for him or does my partner want to leave me for him? No.... but it actually feels good and being with someone else actually brings out better pointers for my own performance and vice versa.
See
Using your analogy... for me it’s like I still wanna eat with the same mouth tho
So I can change the meals up while still eating how I’m used to
Try something new with my partner
Bondage or whatever can bring new sensations to the game
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Postby Wayne » Tue Mar 13, 2018 10:06 pm

Bondage - laawwwd.

I'm such a prude when it comes to s-e-x - you'll find no whips in my room thank you very much.

I also am perfectly fine with admitting I'm far too insecure to have an open relationship. :lol: Hats off to those like John who manage to maintain long-term relationships with them.
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Postby NothingFails » Tue Mar 13, 2018 10:10 pm

MrDiva wrote:
NothingFails wrote:do you want to have the same dinner every night? Sure you have your favorite meal but variety is the spice of life. Do you listen to one and only one artist? Sure you have your fave but there's others who are good too (well some stans might not fathom this lol). I feel the same way with an open relationship. We have a 26 year old chaser who plays with us time to time (twice in the past three weeks) and I absolutely love the sensation being with him brings me... do I want to leave my partner for him or does my partner want to leave me for him? No.... but it actually feels good and being with someone else actually brings out better pointers for my own performance and vice versa.
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Using your analogy... for me it’s like I still wanna eat with the same mouth tho
So I can change the meals up while still eating how I’m used to
Try something new with my partner
Bondage or whatever can bring new sensations to the game
This is true, you learn some new things you didn't know you were into with someone else. I look forward to our little get-togethers with him. I have no feelings for him, I like him as a friend and he's a sweet guy, but I don't have any sort of feelings that I'm in love with him, because I'm not, but spending the afternoon with him is always a good thing.
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Postby AlphaMale » Tue Mar 13, 2018 10:11 pm

NothingFails wrote:do you want to have the same dinner every night? Sure you have your favorite meal but variety is the spice of life. Do you listen to one and only one artist? Sure you have your fave but there's others who are good too (well some stans might not fathom this lol). I feel the same way with an open relationship. We have a 26 year old chaser who plays with us time to time (twice in the past three weeks) and I absolutely love the sensation being with him brings me... do I want to leave my partner for him or does my partner want to leave me for him? No.... but it actually feels good and being with someone else actually brings out better pointers for my own performance and vice versa.
When sex is the most important thing for the both of you, or at least, to one of you, then yes, I understand.
But to have found my partner in life, it's the best thing that ever happened to me and although I love sex, it's not the most important thing in our relationship, so we can go without having sex with random strangers.
Comparing a life time partnership, to listen to music or eating is very "reductive"
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Postby Gravity » Tue Mar 13, 2018 10:11 pm

Different strokes for different folks.
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Postby AlphaMale » Tue Mar 13, 2018 10:14 pm

I'm monogamous and my partner is as well.
I don't know what the future holds, but I don't see me having threesomes or having sex with other guys.
Surely whoever speaks to me in the right voice
Him or her I shall follow
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Postby NothingFails » Tue Mar 13, 2018 10:15 pm

AlphaMale wrote:
NothingFails wrote:do you want to have the same dinner every night? Sure you have your favorite meal but variety is the spice of life. Do you listen to one and only one artist? Sure you have your fave but there's others who are good too (well some stans might not fathom this lol). I feel the same way with an open relationship. We have a 26 year old chaser who plays with us time to time (twice in the past three weeks) and I absolutely love the sensation being with him brings me... do I want to leave my partner for him or does my partner want to leave me for him? No.... but it actually feels good and being with someone else actually brings out better pointers for my own performance and vice versa.
When sex is the most important thing for the both of you, or at least, to one of you, then yes, I understand.
But to have found my partner in life, it's the best thing that ever happened to me and although I love sex, it's not the most important thing in our relationship, so we can go without having sex with random strangers.
Comparing a life time partnership, to listen to music or eating is very "reductive"
But you're not getting it... sex with a different guy is different than the actual emotions/relationship things you only share with your partner. I don't feel any deep emotions for the guy I talked about, I like him as a friend, he's a nice guy, he's sweet and he's cute, but that's the extent. There's not the actual history there that only Justin and I share with each other. His dad's heart attack, my dad's death, his grandma's death, my anxiety issues, etc...., that shit belongs to the two of us and nobody is going to take it away, but some fun with a nice looking guy who is mutually attracted to both of us? Why not?
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