Things might start to get a little rough for me. I've live with my boyfriend now ( and have been for the past going on 4 months) and his mom is really sick. She got blood cancer last year and it went into remission, however now she gotten sick again (although it isn't cancer), but I guess when you get sick and have had cancer...you get sick really badly. Last night they gave him the news that her mental state was fading. I'm not really sure what all goes into that but it doesn't sound good. And he's been crying off and on this whole weekend. I'm just trying to prepare myself for the worst. But it's gonna be so hard to console someone when it's the possible death of a parent. And I know his mom too so it's hard. I'm just trying not to show my sadness in front of him about it. I cried on my way to work this morning over it. I'm hoping she pulls through. I also feel so selfish that I'm worried about how will I be able to care for him if this does happen.
I know through what time you and of course your boyfriend go...
My mother got a diagnose to have lymphoma cancer (I don't know how to describe it in english) on October 2011.
We were all very very down and also she was sick at this time. Firstly for her the hardest time was when she lost her hair after getting that chemo. And she ofeten talked about her death and was very very whiny and almost cried when she talked about all stuff.
In February 2012 the doctors diagnosed brain cancer, because the cancer went from Lymphatic glands to her brain. She've had hard headache. So hard that she didn't realized what she did. So anytime at night she wanted to go on toilet or somewhere and she got dizzy. After that she fell with her head straight to the heater next to the bed. My father said to me now we have to reckon with everything, EVERYTHING what's possible now...
She lost a bit eyesight but she came up and firstly won the fight against cancer in early summer.
The doctors said, the cancer will anytime come back and anytime she will die on that. They and we did not know when, maybe in 2 weeks maybe in 20 years...
So we tried to do the best for our weak mother and wife. She have had a great summer with us, our whole family, th last free summer we've got because it was the summer I begun my education. Shortly after I begun it the headache came back and she was so sick and tired that she didn't have enough force to take her medicaments. At one time our doctor visited us at home because my father won't accept that she was there. Lies at the sofa, almost no moves because of no force. The doctor was on toilet whil she became an epileptical attack. The doctor called the ambulance. At first she was at a normal hospital but almost two weeks later she came to the weakest station. Palliative station. Maybe you know what that is...
She was there a bit more than a week (First day was Friday the 19th october 2012).
On Sunday, 28th October 2012 at the morning around 9'o clock we became a call. Our mother is dead. Peacefully fell asleep..........
While going through this time I also cried often. But everytime alone. If you want to cry alone and for you that's okay. But don't do the fault and don't comfort your boyfriend. I also never did before this.
I just can say you need diversion when you have such a bad time. It always helped me. But always; ALWAYS visit his mom, at least he should do. You don't know how long you have this person in your life. If her health will come back you can say we did not do anything wrong and if she die you have took her last time with her.
Please don't fall in any depressions, I know a few who did because of this.
If you want to talk about this, feel free to send me a message.
By the way, this is the first time I told this to any person here on this forum. But now everyone know what happened back there.