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"Mariah Carey and the unrealistic expectation that 'divas' should age gracefully"
If you had to choose a female singer as your spirit animal, you could do a lot worse than Mariah Carey. No matter how you feel about the 46-year-old '90s diva, who once demanded 20 white kittens at a public appearance and whose Instagram features shots of her reclining in diamond lingerie in a bathtub and wearing stilettos during a workout, there's nothing contrived about her unshakeable self-confidence.
After all, this is the woman that gave birth to her twins, Monroe and Moroccan, while listening to a live version of "Fantasy" and responded to being caught lip-syncing during a live TV performance with the tweet: "S--- happens. Have a happy and healthy new year everybody! Here's to making more headlines in 2017."
Last week, Carey dropped I Don't, a single and music video that's quite literally an up-yours to her ex-fiance and everyone's favourite gambling mogul James Packer, and if the response is anything to go by, she's gotten her wish. The video, which features verses by the rapper YG, sees the singer lounging in a white convertible before apparently torching her wedding dress. From the schlocky set up (it's shot in a mansion) to the over-the-top outfits (vinyl leotards, peek-a-book ballgowns), it's a delightful throwback to very Mariah-specific pleasures.
It's a point that's lost on the haters, who clearly never grew up watching the singer's campy take on femininity in videos for Heartbreaker (where she duels with her double, Bianca ) and Honey (where she fights bad guys and emerges, Bond-style, from a pool in a nude bikini). "Get out your magnifying glasses and detective goggles, kids, because we think Mariah Carey is trying to tell us something," writes Cole Delbyck at The Huffington Post. "Did we mention MC is a di-vah?!" laughs Noah Silverstein at Glamour.
Never mind that Carey holds the record for second-highest amount of number one singles, just after The Beatles, the ability to enter the whistle register (a frequency only available to dolphins) and anticipated the way collaborations with hip-hop artists would change the face of pop music. The fact that she may, indeed, still have the audacity to try to tell us something and the sense of entitlement to act like a diva makes her the instant butt of our jokes.
Of course, no one's pretending that Carey's latest releases are as epic or era-defining as the tracks she made in the nineties (even though I Don't is half-decent). The trouble is that so much of the contempt directed at the singer, ostensibly about her music, is really about the way she breaks unwritten rules about how ageing divas are supposed to behave.
Sure, her plunging necklines and wonderfully tacky outfits might attract shade on social media ("Subtle," sniped an Instagram user under a shot of Carey posing suggestively with a pair of pineapples). But they also ignore the imperative that divas age gracefully — a move that's especially prescient in a culture that objectifies women when they're young and deems them sexually invisible once they hit 40
.The coverage that patronises Carey for writing a revenge song is proof of a world in which older women aren't supposed to be the star of their own romantic narratives, although it's okay if you're young and hot like Taylor Swift or Rihanna.
More irritating are the constant calls for her to retire and the faux concern about her singing voice. No one asks Bruce Springsteen or Bob Dylan to stop putting out records even though we all concur that their best music is behind them. To me, it's proof of a world in which a women's achievements are perceived as gifts from the culture, never truly considered her own.
Luckily, none of this fazes Carey, who spent Valentine's Day in the hot tub with her new boyfriend and took a selfie to prove it. "You haven't lived if you haven't burned a wedding dress!" she joked in an interview with Refinery 29. "I think before you can really move on you just have to really be able to let go of the anger, and then you focus on yourself and do you [...]."
So, yeah, wearing stilettos during a workout and demanding 20 white kittens might come off as slightly over the top. But that unshakeable belief in herself is the real deal — and it's something we could stand to learn from, whether we're Mariah Carey fans or not.http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/celebri ... uest3.html